So you're feeling too fat to be photographed....

Boy, can I relate to this! Throughout my many travels, I have taken thousands of pictures, as in the one who snapped them. I had always been more comfortable explaining, when asked where I was at the time of the picture, that someone had to operate the camera. But that's a pathetic excuse. I have made progress in seeing my beauty, thanks in large part to my best friend and love of my life. He makes me feel beautiful like no one else ever has. :)

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So you’re feeling too fat to be photographed . . .

Listen. I hear you. You’re a few pounds heavier than you like (or a 100lbs heavier than you like). I completely understand how you feel.  I get that same blah feeling about myself when I think about booking new head shots or long overdue pictures of me and Justin.  Precious, I even picked a career that has me permanently behind the camera rather than in front of it.  Seeing myself in pictures actually produces the faintest sick feeling in my stomach.  Isn’t it amazing we can see the beauty in our best friends, sisters, mothers, and aunts without the slightest thought to their flaws . . . but can obsess for hours on our own imperfections?  We fixate on our flaws to the point we shirk at any documentation that our round faces and curvy bodies ever walked the earth.  No pictures to show how we LOVE, how we laugh, how we are treasured by our families.  How is it possible that a double chin can overpower the beauty of a mother cuddling her child?  How does arm fat distract from the perfect shot of a spontaneous hug?   I swear y’all . . . how is it that we can put more value on a TUMMY ROLL than the captivating way you throw yourself into a roar of laughter during a shoot?

In our warped minds pictures become frozen mirrors that we can stare at as we pick apart our features over and over again. I know girl.   I know.

My personal duck-and-cover (or signature “make a funny face”) approach to having pictures of myself changed completely when I had a serious car accident last year (and started over).  In the flash of a second (or a flash of the text message the young woman was reading) my entire life changed.  I nearly left this earth with no physical evidence of the goofy, wide open and loud love I have for my life, my husband, my family and friends.  I haven’t had professional pictures done since our wedding in 2006 . . . always waiting for this elusive moment where I would be thin enough (pretty enough) to have such a permanent record of me.  Because, you know, HEAVEN FORBID there be any proof that I look the way I actually look.

So here is the harsh truth y’all.  Listen good.  Our vanity is no longer enough of a reason to avoid the camera.  Life doesn’t wait until you “get thin” enough to capture it.  Life is happening . . . it is happening right now and the only moment we are guaranteed is the one we are living.  I shudder at the thought of leaving behind no pictures of my life with ME in it.  My mom says of the accident she is “just glad that we’re still a whole family.”  My gift to her this Christmas was a family portrait showing just that, 9 months post-accident . . . a whole family.

So You're Feeling Too Fat for Pictures? My Friend Teresa Photography Puts it All in Perspective.

Do you know what my mom sees when she looks at this picture?  Her beautiful family all together. Do you know what my husband sees?  The family he gained the moment he met me (and how much he looks like my dad…) Do you know what my dad sees?  The happy family he has worked for every day of his life. Do you know what my brother sees?  That he got away with wearing shorts… :)

Shocker:  No one is looking at how fat I look.


Can we agree to put the value of family over the value of fat?  Can we just accept that the weight you’ve been trying to lose for 5 years might actually just be a part of what you look like . . . and that if this magical day does come when you’re acceptably thin you’ll STILL regret not having any pictures of you with your kids from ages 5 – 10?  Can we acknowledge that the insecurities we have in our heads will never be a part of how our children, husbands, and friends see us?  Can we just please let our loved ones remember the YOU they love?

Your children want pictures with their mom.

Your husband wants pictures with his beautiful wife.

Your mom and dad want pictures of the happy, successful, amazing woman they raised (ok, and more pictures of the grandkids while you’re at it)

And if you’re thinking that high school friend on Facebook will say to herself (“wow she has gained weight”) then . . . newsflash you DID.  You gained weight.  Shed a tear.  Read a book.  Drink a Sweet Tea.  Watch Oprah.  Whatever it takes.  Accept this reality . . . YOU GAINED WEIGHT. The truth is you’ve gained a lot of other things too (a career, a family, some kids, a house, a love for travel, the ability to coordinate your separetes . . . ) and that girl from high school is going to spend a lot more time hating on those things then she ever will on your double chin.

So you’re feeling too fat to be photographed? . . . Ok.  But you’re the only one who notices.  The rest of us are too caught up in loving you

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