I'd like to pose the question, when you share understanding that shows and prove to be true, is it necessary to say "I told you so"? I pose the question, in the context, of using the Big Head, and playing the Game of Life. Is saying the statement "I told you so", taking a step forward or backward? When you say " I told you so" you are basking the in glory, of being right. I am asking, that by enjoying that pleasure of sharing "I told you so", are you taking a step forward to that person listening to your understanding or will it cause the opposite reaction? Will your pride cause them not to want to share information? Will they not want to share in fear of being ridiculed for not listening. I am wondering how will the person react if you hold your tongue. Will they be willing to tell you that "you are right" and they should have listened, if you just give them a chance. Wont they be more incline to come talk you and respect you wisdom, which is truly winning in the game? Food for thought, eat and up and don't forget to do the dish. Power UP .....Eye C U



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Comment by bobpippin on February 28, 2015 at 5:01pm

As long as it causes no harm saying I told you so is hardly any different than saying I wrote this poem.

And appreciation is a matter of different factors with different folks.

Thus, do as one thinks best for them in both cases.


By Helen Steiner Rice

We cannot all be famous or be listed in “WHO’s WHO’s". But every person great or small has important work to do For seldom do we realize the importance of small deeds. Or to what degree of greatness unnoticed kindness leads.

For its not the big celebrity in a world of fame and praise. But it’s doing unpretentiously in undistinguished ways The work that God assigned to us, unimportant as it seems, That makes our task outstanding and bring reality to dreams----

So do not sit and idly wish for wider, new dimensions Where you can put in practice your many “GOOD INTENTIONS”--- But at the spot God placed you begin at once to do Little things to brighten up the lives surrounding you.

For if everyone brightened up the spot on which they’re standing By being more considerate and a little less demanding, This dark old world very soon eclipse the “Evening Star” If everybody BRIGHTENED UP THE CORNER WHERE THEY ARE!






            WE HAVE faith in old proverbs full surely,

For Wisdom has traced what they tell,

            And Truth may be drawn up as purely

                      From them, as it may from “a well.”

            Let us question the thinkers and doers,

And hear what they honestly say;

            And you’ll find they believe, like bold wooers,

In “Where there’s a will there’s a way.”


            The hills have been high for man’s mounting,

The woods have been dense for his axe,

            The stars have been thick for his counting,

The sands have been wide for his tracks.

            The sea has been deep for his diving,

The poles have been broad for his sway,

            But bravely he’s proved in his striving,

That “Where there’s a will there’s a way.”


            Have ye vices that ask a destroyer?

Or passions that need your control?

           Let Reason become your employer,

And your body be ruled by your soul.

          Fight on, though ye bleed in the trial,

Resist with all strength that ye may;

         Ye may conquer Sin’s host by denial;

For “Where there’s a will there’s a way.”


        Have ye Poverty’s pinching to cope with?

Does Suffering weigh down your might?

        Only call up a spirit to hope with,

And dawn may come out of the night.

         Oh! much may be done by defying

.. The ghosts of Despair and Dismay;

         And much may be gained by relying

On “Where there’s a will there’s a way.”


        Should ye see afar off that worth winning,

Set out on the journey with trust;

        And ne’er heed if your path at beginning

Should be among brambles and dust.

        Though it is but by footsteps ye do it.

And hardships may hinder and stay,

        Walk with faith, and be sure you’ll get through it;

For “Where there’s a will there’s a way.”



Comment by AlanaNeith on August 13, 2014 at 4:47pm

I feel being told "I told you so" puts the person on the defensive and is prideful.  I try to keep from doing that.  I give them sympathy for not listening and going through a hard time, giving them the chance to tell me that they feel I was right.  I feel being more sympathetic and empathetic gets you farther than being more dominating.  Give them the information, it is their choice to listen.  They just have to realize what the consequences are for not listening.  It is kind of like when I was little.  My mother told me hundreds of times not to touch the stove, it was hot and would burn me.  I did not listen and had to learn for myself.  She caught me just after burning myself and I told her "Hot, Momma, Hoooot!"  She was sympathetic and asked if I would do it again and if I would listen to her next time.  She took care of my burns (not that bad, just some blistering) and we talked it over.  She did not tell me, "I told you so" she used her psychology to not put me on the defensive.  I have always went on the defensive when told that and said painful things to the person to strike back.  I have improved my reactions now.

Comment by Shelly Rivera on February 12, 2014 at 7:42pm

Although it does get discouraging with no appreciation but it also depends on how you look at it. you can get appreciation with someone not even knowing that you did something

Comment by Shelly Rivera on February 12, 2014 at 7:39pm

I agree

Comment by The Missus on February 12, 2014 at 7:36pm
I think, as parents, the things that we do for or kids is a perfect example of how it is not necessarily true that everyone who gives without being appreciated will stop giving. Parents give and sacrifice so much for their kids and do not get appreciated for it because it is not something a child can understand at the time. It isn't until they get older, and usually when they have kids of their own that they truly understand and can truly appreciate what their parents did for them. So, again, I must disagree with you. And again, I must state that it is true that most people will not continue to give if they don't feel they are appreciated, but that's what separates the enlightened from the rest of the world. We should strive to love everyone, and true love is unconditional which by definition means there is no assumption or expectation of receiving anything in return.
Comment by Shelly Rivera on February 12, 2014 at 7:34pm

Saying "I told you so" will only turn people away from listening and furthermore acting on your wisdom. As far as appreciation goes seeing them glow when things go right in their life due to your wisdom should be sufficient.

Comment by The Missus on February 12, 2014 at 2:00pm
Are you helping them so you can be appreciated or are you helping them because they need help. It is not a selfless act if you expect anything, including appreciation, in return. Of course, it is in our nature to want toreceive, but it is going against our nature and doing something for someone without any expectations that elevates is to a higher realm. It gets a little more complicated, however, when you understand that the act of bestowal gives pleasure to the giver and is still not completely an unselfish act
Comment by The Missus on February 12, 2014 at 8:05am
I would think saying "I told you do" is 100% egotistical and therefore a step backwards. It shouldn't even matter to the teacher whether the student recognizes where the knowledge came from, so long as they learned the lesson. If you are truly giving someone advice for their benefit, whether or not they come tell you thank you or that you were right is of no consequence. If they do, it's icing and should be viewed as such.


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